Well, she was less than an hour old and Tom was God knows where. I woke up out of the ether with an utterly abandoned feeling
Even though it was rare for men to wait in the delivery room at this time, the language Daisy uses implies that Tom isn’t there for her and her daughter when they need it.
Ether is what used to be used to ease the pain of childbirth in the 1920’s.
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